Postcards of Grief: Whoa, baby

Wednesday, December 21, 2005

It suddenly occurs to me that it's possible I'll deliver on the anniversary of my mother's death. I'm not sure how I feel about that.

At 2:23 PM, Gosling said...: ((em))

At the risk of being a big buttinski (ha, like that's ever stopped me) I wonder how your mom would feel about it. If I were her, I'd love it. But yeah. Bittersweet. And much much more.
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At 12:27 AM, Lisa said...: My best friend gave birth to her son on my deceased father's birthday (somewhat different, but it feels the same), and I was okay with it. It helps me feel a tiny bit more of a "circle of life" philosophy about the death of a Dad I was (and am still) crazy about.
At 7:11 AM, Anonymous said...: Being a mother will make you think about your mother in more ways than you do now. When people see you with the baby they'll remember your mother too. It's bittersweet but it's life.

My mother's death affected me badly for years but 11 years on I have difficulty remembering the pain and just remember her as the person she was. That'll happen for you too.
At 2:26 AM, Shelli said...: the season itself will be difficult - and what a beautiful gift to give her.

You mom will always be gone, but perhaps she is playing a small part in all of this.

If I say that perhaps she wants the day all to herself, and will thus help Ebry come on a differnet day - would that sound creepy? I hope it sounds loving. We always talk about ways that Velma (Narda's deceased mom) has a hand in all of our adoption options...

Postcards of Grief